what's the name of that missy elliot song?

you know which one i'm talking about? something about flippin things in reverse? anyone have a clue out there? because i feel like, somewhere in the past 2-3 years, my social life went from, having a great time, doing "grown-adult" things, with my "grown-adult" friends, to, spending entirely too much time with people whose ages end in the word "teen".

don't get me wrong. i absolutely adore working with the teenagers at my church. and i am beyond elated that they can relate to me on certain levels. the problem isn't them. it's me!

let me give you an example. today we had a reunion party for those that went on the nyc missions trip a few weeks ago. church was done shortly after 12 but the party didn't begin until 2. the problem is, i live entirely too far from the church to go home and then attend a party. so, out of the goodness of her heart, one of this year's graduates offered me to come to her house and hang in the interim. i was cool with that cause i think, "well, i'll just chill with her parents." then it turned into, like 6 teens going to her house to hang out. which, i was still cool with.

we go to the house. and, as i had predetermined, i spend most of my time with the "adults" talking about things like home renovation, furniture buying, etc.

and i was cool with that. some of my favorite shows are trading spaces & while you were out.

the problem didn't occur until we arrived at the party. you see, when we got there, i had to fight the urge to spend time with my kids (the teenagers). i adore them and i want to be there for them and i never want them to think that they can't come to me for anything if they need to. BUT, there comes a time when an adult needs to relate to adults. and i'm absolutely certain this would have been easier if i had a little something in common with the adults. unfortunately, i felt like i was going in for root canal without having first received some novocaine. honestly, it was almost that bad. i guess the reason it was so torturous is because, i really have less in common with these "adults" than i do with my "kids".

first off, ALL of the adults there were married. ALL OF THEM! (okay there may have been one, count it-ONE, other adult there that is single but i think i've met her once and she and i didn't seem to have much in common.) most of them, if not all of them, have children, or they have one on the way, at least.

and then there's me. i work with the youth and i love it! i'm still single (with, sadly, slim to no prospects). and i'm basically halfway between the ages of the adults and the teens.

talk about your awkward positions.

anywho, the whole thing just kills me. why are all the people my age in freakin nashville, tennessee? ok, maybe not all of them. but it seems like all the peeps i relate to are down there. the few people i meet up here, well, it's like they just don't get it. i know God has called me to stay in this area for at least a little while longer. i just wish i had a few friends. dude, maybe even just one or two, that lived somewhat close by and liked the things i do, and were at least out of college, but weren't married with children, and had normal schedules and semi-normal jobs.

i mean, is that really too much to ask?

you tell me...